What He must be if he wants to marry my Daughter

By Shawn Thrasher


The conventional or biblical idea of marriage is rapidly waning and leaving women who want to be married without. Without the sanctity of marriage as well as child-birth, two staples in life, this society faces destruction.

Where are the men at? Why don't they want to get married? I do have an answer to this question but that will steer me away from the current topic.

For those women that want to get married and for parents who have a daughter or son that will one day be married, I have a recommendation for a must read book regardless of age or sex!! Please go out to your nearest christian bookstore or click on Amazon and order "What He must be if he wants to marry my daughter" by Voddie Baucham . Dr. voddie is a pastor and cultural apologist who speaks directly to raising a godly family.

Men I have to say this; Everything starts with you!! The temperature of a household starts with the man and I am not speaking about a thermostat. Spirituality, responsibility, and love, to name a few, also start with the man.

Women, in a potential husband, regardless of age, you must be looking for a godly man. A biblicaly astute man. Many might say, "Well, they might not start out that way". Do not let this be an excuse. It is easier to start out on the right foot, as hard as it may seem, than to start out wrong and try to make things right.

Give love and marriage a chance by starting relationships the right way and thats by picking your mate the way God said to pick your mate.

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Have you been witnessed to?

By Shawn Thrasher

14How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them? 15And how can they preach unless they are sent? As it is written, "How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!" Romans 10:14-15

“Some want to live within the sound of church or chapel bell,
I want to run a rescue shop within a yard of hell”
– Pioneer evangelist C. T. Studd

In my 15 years of being a Christian, post salvation I have never had anyone witness to me about the Christian faith! Although at 19 years old the Jehovah's witness approached me but since then silence from all forms of faith. (Witnessing - One who publicly affirms faith in Jesus Christ both in Lifestyle and Conversation) Shawn's definition . To me this is just mind boggling, of all the people I have met in passing, none have ever offered Jesus Christ to me and some have claimed to be Christians. Some might say what is the problem with no one witnessing to you? Well I am glad you asked. The very fact that I and many other Christian friends of mine have never been witnessed to is a barometer for all of Christianity. Me just being one person, has travelled to over 40% of our United States and has lived in two of our countries largest metropolises, not to have had the Lord Jesus Christ offered to me or having someone even check to see if I am in the faith.

I believe we don't have a clear understanding of what evangelism really is. I have spoken to some people about this issue and they responded with "I talk about God all the time". For me this was not sufficient and the reason being is because it is so general! Folks we have to remember that the word "God" is not offensive but that magnificent name of Jesus Christ causes folks to yell out "STOP THE PRESSES!!!!" People do not have an offense to God but when you get specific and speak to people directly about what their relationship to Jesus Christ is; the atmosphere quickly changes.

Folks Christ did not say could you possibly make disciples or would you like to make disciples. He said make disciples (Matt 28:19-20).Please remember that evangelism is not a volunteer position! There is only two ways that disciples can be made and that is by opening your mouth about Christ and living a life to Christ; you can not have one without the other!

Although many of you are like me in that no one has attempted to witness to you or some might have had a better experience but I leave you with this; pray that the Lord will make us all bold witnesses for Christ with our mouths and with our lives.

Have you been a witness Today?

The Destructive grip of Sin (Pornography)

by Shawn Thrasher

One of the biggest battles these days for Christians and unbelievers is the battle of Pornography. Be it Internet pornography, magazine, strip clubs etc. Men and women alike have fallen prey to this monster. What is most surprising about this great battle is the number of Christians who are involved in this sin. The numbers are overwhelming. Here are some statistics for you: 50% of Christian men and 20% of Christian women admit that they are addicted to pornography. (Christiannet.com 6.6.07) 51% of pastors say cyber porn is a possible temptation, 37% say it is a current struggle. (Christianity Today Leadership Survey, December 2001) Of Promise Keepers, 53% viewed pornography in the last week. (Internet Filter Review, 2006). 40 million Adults in the U.S. regularly visit porn sites on the internet. (Internet Filter Review) At 13.3 billion, the 2006 revenues of the sex and porn industry in the U.S. are bigger than the NFL, NBA, and Major League Baseball combined. (Internet Filter Review) 60% of all website visits are sexual in nature. (NSNBC Survey 2000) 47% of families said pornography is a problem in their home. (Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003)

I would like to say whether you be single or married this is an issue you want to lay before the Lord and ask Him to help you to overcome. Pornography destroys in several ways: 1) Pornography gives you a false idea of what sex with your marriage partner is supposed to be like. 2) It can distort your view of men and women causing you to think of them only in perverse sexual ways and or just objects of desire. 3) Pornography can destroy a healthy sexual appetite. 4) Pornography transcribes its ugly images in the museum of your mind and will cause you to reflect on these images. 5) Pornography destroys the family.(causes you to live secretly and suspiciously) 6) Destroys your inter and intra-personal skills. (Not able to properly relate to men or women).

I recommend that if you are married or single that your computer be placed in the open somewhere where everybody can see. I also recommend an accountability partner who you trust to be blunt in asking you the deep personal questions about how you are living your life. I also recommend computer programs like the one I use called B-safe. B-safe blocks all xxx rated sites and monitors IMing to keep a record of chatting and blocks illicit conversations and language. Covenant Eyes is another program that can block pornography. There are also two books that I strongly recommend that we as Christians read for help for ourselves and equipping us to help others with this struggle. Every Mans Battle by Steve Arterburn and Every Woman's Battle by Shannon Ethridge.

Living righteously pleases God and gives us a great personal testimony when we witness and evangelize for the Lord. How we live privately is how we should live publicly. Sinners can spot a hypocrite 100 miles away.

I would like to leave you with a few scriptures and a video that displays a Pastor overcoming the grip of pornography.

Ephesians 5:11- Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them;

Mark 4:22- "For nothing is hidden, except to be revealed; nor has anything been secret, but that it will come to light